blackdogrunning:

Ok, because of shit happening in the tags again, let me state it again for those who don’t seem to know.

SEXUALITY = who you are SEXUALLY attracted to.

  and subsets of that

HETEROSEXUALITY = BEING SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO SOMEONE OF THE “OPPOSITE GENDER” (male-female attraction)

HOMOSEXUALITY = BEING SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO SOMEONE OF THE SAME GENDER.

BISEXUALITY = BEING SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO MALES AND FEMALES  (CORRECTED) TWO GENDERS

PANSEXUALITY = BEING SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO PEOPLE OF ALL GENDERS

POLYSEXUALITY = BEING SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO MULTIPLE, BUT NOT ALL, GENDERS

ASEXUALITY = NOT BEING SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO ANYONE. DOES NOT EQUAL AROMANTIC.

GREY-ASEXUALITY and DEMI-SEXUALITY= BEING MINIMALLY ATTRACTED TO OTHERS OR REQUIRING DEEP BONDS BEFORE SEXUAL ATTRACTION.

ROMANTIC ORIENTATION = who you are ROMANTICALLY attracted to.

and subsets of that 

HETEROROMANTIC = BEING ROMANTICALLY ATTRACTED TO SOMEONE OF THE “OPPOSITE GENDER” (male-female attraction)

HOMOROMANTIC = BEING ROMANTICALLY ATTRACTED TO SOMEONE OF THE SAME GENDER.

BIROMANTIC  = BEING  ROMANTICALLY ATTRACTED TO MALES AND FEMALES (CORRECTED) TWO GENDERS

PANROMANTIC  = BEING  ROMANTICALLY ATTRACTED TO PEOPLE OF ALL GENDERS

POLYROMANTIC  = BEING ROMANTICALLY ATTRACTED TO MULTIPLE, BUT NOT ALL, GENDERS

AROMANTIC  = NOT BEING  ROMANTICALLY ATTRACTED TO ANYONE. DOES NOT EQUAL ASEXUAL.

GREY-ROMANTIC and DEMI-ROMANTIC = BEING MINIMALLY ATTRACTED TO OTHERS OR REQUIRING DEEP BONDS BEFORE ROMANTIC ATTRACTION

AROUSAL = the state of BEING AROUSED. This is NOT NECESSARILY  related to your sexuality - it can be triggered by MANY DIFFERENT THINGS, such as contact to sensitive areas. Wearing tight underwear has also been know to arouse some people, because of contact to genitals. 

LIBIDO = SEX DRIVE. How much/often a person WANTS TO HAVE SEX. THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH THEIR ORIENTATION - ASEXUALS CAN STILL HAVE A HIGH LIBIDO. 

(If I’ve fucked up/missed something please tell me so I can change it ASAP)

*Thanks to odannygirl7, who pointed out a mistake I made re:bisexuality/biromantic

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liberal-antics:

Being Sex Positive Is…

• Recognizing that there are many different attitudes towards sex, and accepting that people will not always agree with your opinions on sex. This does not mean that you have to agree with their ideas, nor does it imply that you have to think of their ideas as being “good” or “right” practices for people to follow; it simply means that you respect their personal choice, provided that they are not pushing it onto other people. 
• Respecting people’s choices regarding when they choose to have sex by not pressuring people into having sex or into remaining abstinent. 
• Recognizing the need for comprehensive sex education, and the importance of letting young teens and adults make decisions on their own based on their feelings, thoughts, and personal dispositions. Do not assume to know what’s best for another person just because you know what’s best for yourself. 
• Recognizing that not everyone is ready to have sex; respect boundaries when talking about sex or approaching the subject with other people, especially partners that may or may not want to engage in sexual activities. 
• Likewise, recognizing that not everyone will adhere to abstinence; respect the fact that people have desires that they act upon, and understand that these desires are natural. 
• Understanding that shaming people for choosing abstinence or choosing to engage in sexual activities is wrong. 
• Understanding that sexual “double standards” are wrong, and that no one, regardless of gender, number of sexual partners, or preferred sexual acts, should be shamed or ridiculed for their choices.
• Knowing that “virgin” shaming is just as bad as “slut” shaming, and recognizing that the “virgin/slut” dichotomy that is present in these two terms is not only problematic, but also reinforces the idea that people are only worth their sex lives. 
• Recognizing that sex is not an “immoral” act; it has many uses, and people use sex in many different ways: bonding relaxation,releasing stress, exercise. The list goes on. By understanding WHY other people have sex, there is a better understanding of why you might want to have sex or not; you leave yourself better informed to make decisions in your sexual life.
• Broadening your views and ideas on sex to better understand your stance on sex, and what it means to your life and to yourself. Understand yourself and what you want from sex, and you will be able to make better decisions for yourself regarding sex.
• Discuss your stance on sex before you get into a relationship. Know what the other person expects, and let them know what you expect. If you would like to explore sex at some point, but want to wait in the beginning, let them know, especially if you don’t want any sexual aspect of your relationship at all. Being open and forward about what you expect and what you are looking for will foster a better understanding between you and your partner, regardless of whether or not your relationship is sexual. 
• Having healthy and regular discussions about sex with your sex partner(s.) Discuss what you like, what you don’t like, how you would like to improve and what is just right. Being open in the sexual discussion to be more in tune with your body and your partners’. 
• Having healthy and regular talks about sex with your children, and answering any questions they have about sex with honesty and facts, not scare tactics and lies. This means not only stressing the merits of abstinence, but also the merits of a healthy and safe sex life. 
• Recognizing the need for institutions like Planned Parenthood, who offer sexual and reproductive health services to both males and females* as well as other health services. 
• Recognizing that people are more than what they do with their bodies; people are not just penises and vaginae. We are living, breathing, thinking, feeling organisms. Sex is but one aspect of a whole being; respect the fact that sex does not make an individual who they are. 
• Not judging a person for the “sexuality” of the way that they dress by calling them a “slut” and assuming they are “DTF,” so to speak. Likewise, do not judging a person for the “conservative” way that they dress by assuming that they are a “prude.” Get to know people by who they are, not they way they look or what they do with their bodies. 
• Realizing that some people just want to have sex, and that that’s ok. 
• Realizing that some people just don’t want to have sex, and that that’s ok too. 
• Understanding that people enjoy different types of sex, as well as being aware that just because you or your partner don’t like a certain type of sex, it doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with you. Be comfortable in what you like and don’t like. 
• Respecting sex workers by not looking at them as just object rather than people, as well as acknowledging that they are professionals just like anyone else; they are no less for the jobs that they work. This includes not assuming all sex workers are infected with STDs or STIs, simply for the fact that they are in the sex industry. 
• Not ridiculing someone for contracting an STD or STI, making jokes about them, or referring to people with these conditions as “sluts.” This goes hand in hand with understanding that STD/STIs HAPPEN. 
• Realizing that teen sex happens, and not ridiculing teens for engaging in sexual activities. 
• Supporting access to contraception for people of all ages as well as removing the stigma that going out and buying contraception is somehow something “bad,” “dirty,” or something to be ashamed of. 
• Being aware of rape culture and how it affects sex, especially among young people. Explain the concept that consent is not just a “yes” or a “no,” but a combination of words (or the lack thereof) an body language. Equip teens with the knowledge to be able to know properly when someone is consenting, and when someone is not. 
• Stop reinforcing the notion that young men HAVE to have sex even if they aren’t ready. This also goes with not reinforcing the idea that every man who has sex objectifies women.  
• Likewise, stop reinforcing the notion that young women HAVE to abstain from sex even if they are ready. This also goes with not reinforcing the idea that a woman is a “tease” or a “prude” if she doesn’t have sex. 

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treesong:

haleyef:

antithestasia:

Virginity:

• is sexist
• is heteronormative
• commodifies sex
• commodifies young cis-het white women
• contributes to rape culture
• contributes to slut-shaming
• erases queer folk
• erases transfolk
• frames a woman’s worth as inversely proportional to the number of dicks that have been inside her

and much, much more! 

This is so true. The term is so made up and confusing, I’m on like my third or fourth virginity right now.

#Seriously though #my life is wrought with tension between my simultaneous virgin and non-virgin statuses #On a regular basis #But actually I can hardly keep track of the virginities I’ve lost the virginities I’ve yet to lose and the virginities I’ll never lose #I never know what to say when people ask if I’m a virgin #Like #are you asking if I’ve had sex? Because that’s a totally different question. And a whole other set of definitions. #Also #the whole idea enforces the slut/prude dilemma #It tells girls to VALUE not having sex #AND creates this pressure to have sex #Fuck Virginity #Haha #get it?

Had to reblog for Haley’s perfect tags

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andysinacage:

According to a survey conducted by the Guttmacher Institute, the United States leads nearly all other developed nations of the world in rates of teenage pregnancy, abortion and childbearing. The United States is the only developed country where teenage pregnancy has been increasing in recent years, with the U.S. rate for teens ages 15 to 19 years standing at 96 per 1,000 girls compared to 14 per 1,000 in the Netherlands, 35 in Sweden, 43 in France, 44 in Canada and 45 in England. It is notable that the teenage abortion percentage alone in the United States is higher than the combined abortion percentages in the five previously mentioned countries. Those developed countries with the most liberal attitudes toward sex, and the most effective formal and informal programs for sex education, have the lowest rates of teenage pregnancy, abortion and childbearing

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